“Expectation is the root of all heartache ” said William Shakespeare or rather he meant Expectation roots from heartache !
Lets dive a little deeper into the human relationships that weave a web of emotions around its entire existence .
What happens when two people come together, as friends, as family, as lovers…they bond ! Some are chosen while the other’s are bestowed upon us,either ways a bond is formed.With the passing of time very few sustain.Some are broken ,some dragged, barely breathing . The essence of every human relationship is to provide emotional security to one another,a sense of belonging ,a team you travel with in this journey called life.Then why do some connections end up being a codependent bond where one loses his/ her bearings completely. The loss of individuality stems from the need to feel wanted,loved & nurtured. This need slowly catapults into addiction… addiction for acknowledgement, approval and acceptance ending into the most unhealthy condition of a human existence. It creates a sense of emptiness, want and a never ending need for the other to fulfill us ,complete us….
This need ,urge ,desire ,the unfulfilled hopes is what we call EXPECTATIONS !
Expectations come in where either of the two people involved are not giving in their 100% to the relationship.
Now let’scheck out a 2nd scenario.
Here again two people meet and feel an instant pull towards each other.The difference is just this much…the pull remains a constant.
The bond formed here is in its most organic form, its a soul connect!
One naturally knows what the other wants…without having to beg or force it from the other.Its a gradual and unconcious process of one refuelling the other and vice versa ,an osmosis of pure love floating from one human form into the other. It is a continous process of an untiring commitment where the two halves of the same key graviate towards each other to open the lock , beneath which the universe hides their share.
The exchange of energy is uninterrupted and the human form remains undented & hence forming a perfect circle ! The heart is gushing with love,pumping life and joy into the relationship.
The people involved nurture each other with mutual respect,admiration and work hand in glove towards a common goal.This unwavering support for each other becomes the backbone of their allaince built on a strong foundation of trust, honesty and respect !
So EXPECTATIONS arise from the feeling of ‘LACK ‘,the lack of the aforementioned value system which creates codependency,emptiness ,loss of dignity which are synonyms to a broken heart with dashed desires.
Where their is a dissatisfied heart there is Expectation.
When the heart is honoured there is Gratitude
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When there is a Dissatisfied heart…there are Expectations!
So now we can safely conclude :
Expectation roots from heartache !!!
DAISY. ❤
(17th Nov ’20 )
Brilliant. You have written with a thorough insight?
Glad you like it Aapi jaan…just trying to unlearn the learnt to learn ??
You got it right on babes…. relationship is about fulfilling each other or else why at all? Wonderful.
Yes dear,the relationships that are evolved ,could be any…there is no room for ny need /lack hence free frm this mostly misinterpreted word….Expectation !!!
Absoluetly when you are happy and focused . So you are more giving and less expecting . Self love is most important. Excellent writeup Maam
Rohit…when two ppl are committed…the flow will be effortless…thats the whole point…expectation word is falsly implicated here….the lack lies within.
Read your excerpts. Not only makes sense but also invites the mind to delve into the possible & probable. Very good. I simply wish you continue to write & bring focus on the lifes events.
Thank you so much Yousuff Sahab…its gratifying to know my humble efforts in understanding life do some justice.
Excellent. But expectations may arise from hopes sometimes. And that’s beautiful.
Shahid sahab unfulfilled hopes are what we call expectations…the sweet desires in a relationship are often identified by the other and fulfilled…hence no emptiness…no vaccum. My two cents ?
Expectations lead to heartache. Find happiness in every little thing that two people in a relationship do for each other. At the beginning of a relationship, both the partners go out of the way to do things for each other. With time it settles down at a more practical and realistic level. This is when expectations start bothering and cause heartache. Exactly made for each other are far and few. A little adjustment is essential.
This absolutely doesn’t mean that you kill your expectations or make a compromise. What it means is that the two people in a relationship are individual people as well. Don’t expect your partner to lose his/ her individuality. It is not a competition to dominate or tame your partner.
My two cents ?
Safi …ok now lets try to understand it this way…thats exactly what I am trying to say: One never has to lose oneself in the process. The transition from the rose tinted view of the world to say the more real ,practical view will be similar for both. The crux is to remain the same at the core even when all is changing on the surface.
What humans need is to evolve Emotionally.
Expectation tabhi aayegi jab aapko khalipan lagega…the feeling of Lack….hence it stems from heartache.
I will maintain that expectations lead to heartache, not the other way round ?
Sochiyega zaroor ???
Simply put with amazing finesse… Wao
Thank you Sameer G…..glad !